You’re not here to fit in, you’re here to stand out

On Tuesday evening I went to my first (of hopefully many) Dr John DeMartini events in London. Two days on, I am still going over my notes, remembering other things he said and re-evaluating the way I think about myself and others.

It would be IMPOSSIBLE to explain exactly what Dr DeMartini shared, he spoke for two hours, because I’m sure every one of the hundred plus people in that room took something completely different away with them.

Dr John DeMartini is a human behavioral specialist and has years of research behind him and has dedicated his life to the collection of this knowledge and the sharing of it with others. He believes that we should all be living lives based on our own personal set of values and that this is the only way to find true peace and passion within ourselves and live our lives to the full.

The event was eye-opening and mind-expanding and something that’s best experienced personally, but my personal highlights were;

• Do not minimize yourself by comparing yourself to others. They have their values and you have yours. Do not inflict theirs on you and do not inflict yours on to them. Live your life how you want to live it – I tune with your own personal values.

• See things ON the way, not IN the way

• The universe rewards people who love

I have personal experience of well-meaning (and some not so) friends and family trying to ‘push’ their values on to me. Something as simple as ‘I’d love you to meet someone, settle down and be happy’, This is meant with so much love and care and a reflection of one of their highest values, their positive relationship with their partner, but forgetful of the fact that I am actually very happy single and loving my life right now!

I’m sure we can all think of similar experiences in our lives. A comment that was made very innocently, but made you feel low or like you were lacking in your life. Think about why it made you feel that way – probably because you didn’t understand why you didn’t have that in your life when your friend/family member did. But why didn’t you have that? Probably because if you really think about it, you don’t really want it! Its just not as important to you as it is to that person and that is fine!

The fact of the matter is that no two people will share exactly the same values. What is important to one person may not be as important to someone else – and that is ok!
We should all try our hardest not to push our values on to other people but accept that we are all different… and look at us all getting on and succeeding in life!

There were so many ‘a-ha’ moments on Tuesday evening and I can’t wait for even more in the future as I continue to expand my horizons and look more into human behavior – it’s fascinating! I love learning new things and hearing other people’s views and opinions. You can learn so much from listening to, debating with and sharing with other people and I’m enjoying reading about different prospective, opinions and ways of living our best lives. A lot of what Dr DeMartini had to say made sense to me – maybe it will to you too.

Disclaimer: Tenuous link to travel/caravanning is that I think everyday is a journey and I’m sharing that with anyone who wants to read my blog. Plus, this is my blog and I can write about what I like! I would welcome opinions, other points of view or suggestions on who else to look up and listen too.